Family Violence Safety Plan

Safety Plan

1 in 3 Australian women experience family violence. If you are in this situation and you and your children’s safety is at risk, you may need to leave in a hurry.

Use this information to make a safety plan that works for you:

If you are in danger

If you are in danger call 000

Other useful numbers

  • Safe Steps: 1800 015 188
  • Need to talk? Call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732
  • Men’s Referral Service:  1800 065 973
  • Kid’s Help Line: 1800 551 800

Take these items if possible

Take these items if possible

  • Money
  • Keys to car, house, work
  • Extra clothes
  • Medications
  • Birth certificates
  • School and medical records (immunization records)
  • Bank cards, credit cards, tax file number
  • Driver’s license, car registration
  • Healthcare card
  • Medicare card and Centrelink information
  • Passports, visa copies
  • Lease, rental, mortgage and insurance papers
  • Address book
  • Pictures, jewellery, things that mean a lot to you
  • Children’s things (toys, blankets, nappies etc.)
  • Recent photograph of your ex-partner

If you are in a violent relationship

It’s easier to leave a violent partner if you have a clear plan. Follow these steps when preparing to leave.

In an emergency

  • If you are in danger call 000
  • Go to a safe place. Safer places in your home are where there are two exits and no hard surfaces.

How to keep children safe

  • Seek advice on how to talk to your child about domestic violence and how to include them into your safety plan
  • Make up a code word with your children for when you need help
  • Teach children how to dial 000 and practice what to say. “My name is ___ . My address is ___ and my mum is being hurt.” Tell children not to hang up the phone so services can hear what is happening and find you.
  • Tell your children which neighbour, friend or relative they could run to for safety or contact in an emergency

Make a plan to leave

  • Get a new Prepaid SIM Card with credit to use in your phone or have coins for a phone box
  • Keep your bank account details private or open a new account so your abuser does not have access to your finances
  • Use a public computer (e.g. library or community centre) or a friend’s computer that your abuser can’t access
  • Keep a bag packed so you can easily take it with you. Hide it where you can get to it easily, or leave it with a trusted friend.
  • Decide who you will call if you feel threatened or in danger

Once you leave a violent relationship

When abusers feel a loss of control, like when victims try to leave them, the abuse often gets worse. Take special care and seek support.

Get a Intervention Order (IO)

  • Get a Family Violence Intervention Order from the court. Include your workplace and children in it. Keep a copy with you all the time.
  • Advise your children’s carers who is allowed to pick them up. Give a copy of the Intervention Order to police, your employer, your children’s carers and school.

Security at home and work

  • Tell friends and neighbours that your abuser no longer lives with you. Ask them to call the police if they see your abuser near your home or children.
  • Advise work about your situation and ask them to screen your calls and block your emails. Give a copy of the Intervention Order and a picture of the abuser to your workplace.
  • Change the locks on your house and car. Consider installing stronger doors, a security system and outside lights.

Keep your details private

  • Change your mobile number and have it set on ‘private’ by your provider
  • Get a P.O. Box for important mail or keep your home address private
  • Don’t use the same stores that you did when you were with your abuser
  • Ask government agencies like centrelink, medicare, gas, electricity, law firms, doctors, schools, hospitals etc to keep your details private.

Stay private online

  • Change your email address. Avoid using any personal details as the account name.
  • Have a computer technician check your computer for spyware programs.
  • Delete your Facebook account and your kids’ accounts. People can accidently reveal your whereabouts and social circles without realising they have done so.
  • Keep a neighbour’s phone number to call in an emergency


Experiencing family violence? Click below to make a plan that works for you.

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