If you’re experiencing domestic violence, use this information to make a plan that works for you.
I moved to Australia to join my husband after an arranged marriage in India. I had known him for just 10 days. The abuse started shortly afterwards.
He would prevent me from talking to other people at church. On our evening walks, I wasn’t allowed to look at passers-by. When I called my family in India, he would limit the time I could speak with them.
After two and a half months, I decided to leave and return to India. My family supported me but his family called me “dirty” and accused me of taking his money.
After seven months, he came to India and begged for a second chance. The abuse from his family in India was getting unbearable so I decided to go back to Australia. Things were better for a few weeks but when I got pregnant he asked me to get rid of the baby. I refused.
He became more and more demanding, controlling and manipulative. An argument prompted him to slap me and push my head against the bed. I rang a lady from church and she rang the police, who referred me to Emerge.
I was afraid as I didn’t have any support networks or friends but my caseworker was wonderful. She helped me to find accommodation, counselling and financial support. She referred me to an Indian doctor, encouraged me to make friends and helped me to organise a personal care assistant course. I am now working at the Alfred Hospital as a registered nurse.
Emerge’s support has enabled me to build a strong foundation for a new future.